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My name is Hila Raviv, mother to Lior and Tamar, married to Prim, living for 10 years in the Netherlands.

I was born and raised in a small town in Israel and grew up singing classical music, representing Israel with it in Israel and abroad.

When I moved to the Netherlands I slowly changed direction and found a new stage I loved- working as a tour guide, constantly learning about the history and Phenomena of the Netherlands In many different aspects.

As my second child was born, challenging us in many ways, also the pandemic hit and left me searching how to deal with a baby who doesn’t want to sleep and a toddler who needs constant attention. It also left me without any prospect of returning to work (as tourism stopped) and I found a new direction: holistic sleep coaching.

As I thought about what a gentle approach means to me I came to the idea of Lullaby! The link between my past as a singer (nowadays singing to my kids only) and the sleep advice I learned and want to educate and advocate.

What do I believe in?

When a baby is born, a father is born, a mom is born, and a family is born. It’s intense and exhausting, but also a beautiful learning process of mutual acquaintance and trust. Most of us expect it to come, but we don’t know in advance how tough, challenging, and also rewarding it is.

Babies and children keep developing and changing, and we- the parents and our parenting accordingly. Constantly. In addition to this challenge- each child is a world and character of their own and completely different from his peers, even of the same age, stage, geographic location or culture, or even the same family. 

That is why I don’t believe in one magical trick or even strategy that can fit all, or solve the ‘Sleep problems’ forever. It’s most difficult for us- the adults- to understand or adjust ourselves to this strange new ‘Normal’ of children, and yet it can be a real challenge and the parents’ difficulty should be acknowledged.

"It takes a whole village to raise a child."

This proverb is not in vain- our modern world creates an unnatural, complicated situation- a narrow core family who raises its children (Often far away from their home base and larger family), and simultaneously a real existential pressure from the need to work and provide.

It doesn’t always coexists of our child’s natural needs. Sometimes all it requires is to understand and internalize that and find a way to ease on the parent(s), and it will all get sorted. But even if there is a need for a real treatment to a concrete existing pathological problem- It’s important to individually form the right strategy. Getting to the bottom of it through listening to the parents (the biggest experts in their children), discussing their parental and educational views and approach, and offering a unique personalized solution that changes with the changing conditions and situations.

Not always will the first strategy work, and it’s definitely not immediate (whoever has these on their agenda for sure doesn’t offer a responsive,  gentle, or personalized solution), but it is a strategy that is respectful for parent and child and for the rest of the family, and its essence is to let the child know she/he can always rely upon and trust her/ his parents.